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Digging deeper into what I need to change can be confusing and frustrating.

I sometimes just want answers or possible solutions, thinking “please someone TELL me what I need to do in order to change.” In fact what I must do is to find ways to look deeper into my soul and figure out what needs to be healed and what is asking for help. It takes courage and support in order to go in to those areas I have hidden away from myself in order to feel safe. Each time I am able to go there, I have found out that I am able to look at the old messages or beliefs that are no longer true for me.   [Read More]

Work has been, for most of us, a Monday–to–Friday, eight–hour–a–day thing. Nevertheless, many people—myself included—piece together a few jobs in order to find fulfillment and to make ends meet. I work part–time at Centerpoint and I have a private counseling practice. Before now, most of my jobs have been a regular nine–to–five gig.  [Read More]

I’ve been working a lot with clients about saying “yes” to experience. What does this mean? It means having our experience and not resisting it. It means allowing the experience and even accepting it and welcoming it. By treating our current situation as having elements from which we create our next step, we can then move on in our lives. It doesn’t mean we have to like it. It doesn’t mean we wouldn’t prefer some other experience. It does, however, mean that we need to let life unfold.  [Read More]

I have recently been reminded of an important idea in Centerpoint’s “Cycles of Change”. The idea is that there is always energy for the next step and if taking that step feels scary, overwhelming, or creates anxiety then we are trying to take too big of a step. In other words, something is missing. I had a very stressful September. I didn’t listen to my body and I didn’t have energy for what I needed to do. I could tell that my body was tired and that I needed to rest. I was feeling overwhelmed.  [Read More]

An article in today’s New York Times, Still on the Job But at Half the Pay, is about a guy whose job was downgraded and whose salary was cut. Here’s a sentence from it: "The demotion, the loss of command, the cut in pay to less than his wife, Tracy, makes as a fourth-grade teacher, have diminished Mr. Lawlor, 34, in his own eyes."

It seems that one main theme that ran throughout the article can be described as follows:  [Read More]

Waiting is not easy. I have some things I’m waiting on in my life—relationally and vocationally. I get impatient and I sometimes get unproductive. I realize that when I’m in a “groove,” I am so much more productive. I see opportunities and I’m busy. But when I’m in a waiting place, time seems to move more slowly and it can be excruciating.   [Read More]

I’m waiting to see more movement in several areas of my life right now. I have noticed that sometimes I work really hard and push for change to occur on my timetable. I want it so badly that I am continually working on my goal. While there is nothing wrong with being driven by a goal, I am realizing that sometimes it is important to give a goal room to breathe. Or, to say it another way, I am realizing I need give myself room to breathe and to do my best to pursue my dreams…but then, to allow space for the transformation to happen.   [Read More]

Yesterday, Labor Day, was the day my husband lost his job. Well, sort of.   [Read More]

I read an article in the New York Times yesterday about a 58-year-old man who was having a difficult time finding a job. It’s been 18 months since he worked. Then I heard on NPR radio today that 3.8 million people found jobs last month.   [Read More]

I think I may need to take some of Centerpoint’s own advice. We tell our clients to put as much time as they can into the homework from their classes and individual sessions. The more time they spend, the more they will get out of it, and the richer the answers will be that they find.   [Read More]